Have you ever felt everyone was judging you? No matter what you do, it feels like everyone is treating you like you're on trial for a heinous crime, and you have no idea what you supposedly did? These times happen to all of us, and can be frustrating beyond words. I feel that way for living in Utah and being single at 29. Brigham Young (an early LDS leader) once said, "If you're 25 and single, you're a menace to society." Sound absurd to you? Me, too. Yet my local culture takes that to heart, like it's some great law that we all must abide to or else we're evil, anarchic, Communists. It is one of the most frustrating things I have to deal with in my life.
Which leads me to the line I'm quoting today. People judge us automatically, without knowing what's going on in our lives. "Oh, he's single at 29." "Oh, those kids are such hellions." "Oh, she doesn't get home until 9 at night. She must be up to something." How about, before we judge people, we take into account other factors? Maybe there's a reason I'm single at 29. Maybe those kids aren't as bad as you think, or have a rough life at home or school. Maybe the only job she could find requires her to work until 9 and the family desperately needs the money. I really wonder how a lot of these judgmental people would handle living my life. Would it not bother them? Would they be incapable of being disabled? Would they feel sorry for themselves all the time and expect others to feel sorry for them? I will never know. But I do wish that people would use their heads and think for a minute before judging me. They may realize they're not being as good of people as they think.
Here's the song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlzsAMu7WxA
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